God’s Indestructible Plan for Marriage

We are doing a series called “In Love” at church and it has been incredible.

God never designs anything to fail. He gives us a 100% chance for success in our marriage. As long as we do it his way, it will work! His plan is clearly written in the bible and I’m sure you have all heard or read this verse before…

“Wives submit to your husband as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to maker her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church- for we are members of his body.
For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and the two will become one flesh. This is a profound mystery- but I am talking about Christ and the church. However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.”
Ephesians 5:22-33
Now, when we hear that, we like what it says about our spouse, but we don’t like what it says about ourselves. Also, we fear being the first one to do it. As Joyce Meyers says, “The best person does the right thing first.” So when I took notes, I basically focused more on ways to become a better wife. It doesn’t matter if the other spouse is  putting in the effort or not, as long as you do God’s will, he will work through your lives and marriage together.
1. The roles in Eph. 5 make us attractive to the opposite sex.
Men are as sensitive in their ego as women are physically. Men have a need for honor. If your husband isn’t doing something you like, speak to him in a loving way. The same way you would speak to God. Not the way you’ve heard your parents speak to each other or the way your married friends speak to each other. The way you say things is just as important as what you say.
The greatest marriage is 2 servants in love. The worst marriage is 2 selfish people in love.
2. The roles in Eph. 5 release the potential in our spouse.
Jesus doesn’t put me down, he lifts me up… and that’s how it should be with your spouse.
A good wife is like a cheerleader. A bad wife is a critic. Literally, cheerleaders are always looking for something they can praise. They also can say something negative, in a positive way. A husband needs to know you believe in him. So, be a cheerleader for your husband!
3. The roles in Eph. 5 disable our sin natures and keeps them from destroying our marriages.
Eve ate from the Garden without conversing with Adam first. Adam, never told Eve not to eat from the garden. When you make decisions together, the devil will never conquer.
4. The roles in Eph. 5 sensitize us to be able to understand and meet our spouses’ needs.
If you could meet your own needs, you wouldn’t have gotten married.
Don’t wait around for your husband to be the best he can. Put your all into the marriage, God’s way, and he will come around! The boss in your house should not be one spouse or the other. The boss should be Jesus Christ. God is giving you the answer to a successful marriage. He is telling you to do these things simply so you can have the key to your spouse’s heart.

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