3 Myths About Marriage

Myth # 1: “If I could just marry the right person, my marriage would be great.”

The question you should be asking yourself is not did you marry the right person, but are you becoming the right person? God’s word tells us to become the type of person you are looking for and everything else will fall into place. Focus on being the right person and you will have a faithful marriage. Only Jesus is “Mr. Right.” So, to answer your questions…. If you have accepted Jesus as your Savior, then YES, you married the right person.

Myth # 2:  “Physical attraction is the key to a great marriage.”

You can be attracted to millions of people in the world. However, attraction is only an initiator, it is not a sustainer. For attraction and passion to continue, it has to be developed. Boobs and butts will turn a guys head, but it won’t turn his heart. So ask yourself, are you helping that person become more attracted to Jesus, or only to yourself?

Myth # 3: “Compatibility is crucial for a healthy lasting marriage.”

The divorce rate today is more than 50%. Pre arranged marriage divorce rate is only 4% because they have a different value on marriage. Thats Crazy!! In a healthy lasting marriage, its about spiritual chemistry. If you both love God, follow Jesus, encourage and strengthen each other to go deeper in your relationship with Christ, you will have a healthy lasting marriage. Your husband won’t become the Christian leader you want them to be by nagging all the time. Instead, if you follow, encourage, and submit despite their failures, you will help them reach their potential.

   
 “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” -Ephesians 5:22
“Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” – Eph 5:25
 
It didn’t say respect and submit IF they are a good leader. So, look past their flaws and failures and stay faithful to them. Christ looked past our failures and mistakes when he died for us regardless of if we would ever love him back. You can’t love just like Christ, but his love can flow through you. You still follow Jesus even when you don’t understand things, or when there is pain, or when life deals you a bad hand. In the same way, follow your spouse even when life isn’t going the way you want it to go, or even when they aren’t being a good leader. You can become that right person whether the other person ever changes or not. But imagine if 2 people in the same relationship have the understanding to submit to one another, love, encourage, and strengthen one another through all the seasons of life. You would have a powerful, thriving, and fulfilling marriage!
 

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